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Showing your love with gifts

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By Michelle Singletary
My 16-year-old son was following me around the store recently, trying to pry out of me what I wanted for Motherís Day.
ďYour love is all I need,Ē I said. ďThat and promising to take care of me in my old age.Ē
He wasnít amused.
This isnít another one of my columns about how store-bought gifts donít matter. Iím not going to tell you itís the thought that counts or that you shouldnít spend a lot of money for Motherís Day. The sad expression I saw on my sonís face that day in the store has changed my perspective.
Sometimes a thought isnít good enough for people whose love language is the giving of gifts.
ďMothers remember the days their children bring a flower from the yard as a gift,Ē writes Gary Chapman in his book ďThe Five Love Languages.Ē ďThey feel loved, even if it was a flower they didnít want picked. From early years, children are inclined to give gifts to their parents, which may be another indication that gift giving is fundamental to love. Gifts are visual symbols of love.Ē
So Iím addressing those of you, like me, who normally brush off people who earnestly ask what you want for your special day. Letís make it easier for folks who want to buy us something.
In early April, the National Retail Federation polled 6,535 consumers to find out their purchasing plans for Motherís Day. On average, survey participants plan to spend $162.94 on their moms this year. The most popular gift is flowers. I remember my grandmother loved to get flowers on Motherís Day. Big Mama would quip: ďI want my flowers while Iím alive when I can smell them.Ē
Although I loathe that the many ways we celebrate special events comes with feeling pressure to give something with a price tag, I understand the expression of love is often symbolized by gifts. So mothers, hereís what you should do going forward if you typically say you donít want or need anything:
Prepare to provide a present idea. For givers who need a clue or ask outright what you want, think of a few things you would like even if you donít need them. I told my 13-year-old daughter to tell her brother to get me earrings. Iím always losing my earrings or ending up with just one of a set.
Put off buying things you need so that they can become gift items. What are some of the things you have on your list to buy for yourself? I needed a hands-free Bluetooth headset because I lost mine. Instead of buying it myself, I could have told my son to get me one. At $30, it was in his budget.
Embrace the concept that itís better to give than to receive. Donít deprive your children of their desire to honor you with a gift. They want a tangible way to express love. Donít dismiss their efforts.
Iím going to be much more cooperative now when my children try to figure out what I may want or need.
Even if receiving a present isnít important to me, the joy I see in their faces when they give me a gift is a gift to remember.
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